OH, PLEASE LADIES... DON\'T CHEAT ON YOUR HUSBAND...
One survey suggests that women dominate online emotional cheating , while men dominate offline ones.
Why does this happen? Most married women feel that physical cheating are a major sin or something extremely dangerous.
Because of this, when they cheat online, they feel "it’s fine" since "there is no significant physical touch."
In reality, chatting with a man who is not their mahram is an act of betraying their husband. Love often grows from intense communication. Even if these women don’t initially intend to stray, they forget or perhaps don\'t realize, that by opening a chatroom with another man, they are opening the door for Satan to become the "third party," ready to push them into the abyss of infidelity.
If a single woman is required to have a guardian as a third party during ta’aruf, what happens when a married woman chats privately with a man who isn\'t her mahram?
Look at this!
A wife starts by simply replying to an old friend’s Story. "It\'s just a normal chat," she thinks.
Eventually, she starts venting.
She begins to feel, "He understands me better."
Then, chats are deleted because she\'s "afraid her husband will misunderstand."
The very act of deleting those messages proves her guilt. As the Indonesian saying goes: "The innocent are brave, the guilty are afraid."
If these women truly felt chatting with other men was "fine," why hide it? Why delete the messages? Why does their heart race when their husband holds their phone?
This is why Allah says:
"And do not approach adultery" (Surah Al-Isra: 32).
Why didn\'t Allah just say, "Do not commit adultery"?
Because adultery/infidelity starts with intermediaries , whether big or small. Even if it\'s just a tiny spark that flickers for 0.00 seconds, when they are alone, satan enters to pour kerosene on that spark until it roars into a massive fire.
And you know what? When that affair happens, satan applauds. And when the affair is exposed, even leading to divorce, satan cheers because he receives an award from the king of devils, Iblis.
The pinnacle of success for Satan is when he manages to separate a husband and wife.
And look at this too:
A wife is hurt because her husband cheated. Finally, she retaliates by having an online affair.
She thinks: "You think you\'re the only one who\'s still got it? I\'ve still got it too! Plenty of guys still want me!"
Hi, ladies...
Okay, I understand your pain...
If you respond to his infidelity by cheating as well, then you are putting yourself on the same level as your husband.
If you cheat to seek validation, you are on a lost path. Validation is meant for something good. Is there any judge who would give a high score to a cheating woman? (Naudzubillah min dzalik...)
Show Allah that you do not "waver" just because your husband cheated. Show Allah that you are His patient servant who remains obedient to Him. If you can do these two things, Allah will boast about you before His angels.
The best validation is the validation from Allah. So why seek validation from a man who is not your mahram?
And the best One to repay the pain of betrayal is Allah. So why would you respond to infidelity with infidelity?
But… there is something even better than asking Allah to punish his betrayal.
That is: Asking Allah to reward you instead. To grant you a replacement far better than him : Someone truly good , along with success.
Isn’t receiving someone better than the one who betrayed you, and attaining success, the best kind of revenge?
Originally written
By : Tia Maryam
OH, PLEASE LADIES... DON'T CHEAT ON YOUR HUSBAND...
One survey suggests that women dominate online emotional cheating , while men dominate offline ones.
Why does this happen? Most married women feel that physical cheating are a major sin or something extremely dangerous.
Because of this, when they cheat online, they feel "it’s fine" since "there is no significant physical touch."
In reality, chatting with a man who is not their mahram is an act of betraying their husband. Love often grows from intense communication. Even if these women don’t initially intend to stray, they forget or perhaps don't realize, that by opening a chatroom with another man, they are opening the door for Satan to become the "third party," ready to push them into the abyss of infidelity.
If a single woman is required to have a guardian as a third party during ta’aruf, what happens when a married woman chats privately with a man who isn't her mahram?
Look at this!
A wife starts by simply replying to an old friend’s Story. "It's just a normal chat," she thinks.
Eventually, she starts venting.
She begins to feel, "He understands me better."
Then, chats are deleted because she's "afraid her husband will misunderstand."
The very act of deleting those messages proves her guilt. As the Indonesian saying goes: "The innocent are brave, the guilty are afraid."
If these women truly felt chatting with other men was "fine," why hide it? Why delete the messages? Why does their heart race when their husband holds their phone?
This is why Allah says:
"And do not approach adultery" (Surah Al-Isra: 32).
Why didn't Allah just say, "Do not commit adultery"?
Because adultery/infidelity starts with intermediaries , whether big or small. Even if it's just a tiny spark that flickers for 0.00 seconds, when they are alone, satan enters to pour kerosene on that spark until it roars into a massive fire.
And you know what? When that affair happens, satan applauds. And when the affair is exposed, even leading to divorce, satan cheers because he receives an award from the king of devils, Iblis.
The pinnacle of success for Satan is when he manages to separate a husband and wife.
And look at this too:
A wife is hurt because her husband cheated. Finally, she retaliates by having an online affair.
She thinks: "You think you're the only one who's still got it? I've still got it too! Plenty of guys still want me!"
Hi, ladies...
Okay, I understand your pain...
If you respond to his infidelity by cheating as well, then you are putting yourself on the same level as your husband.
If you cheat to seek validation, you are on a lost path. Validation is meant for something good. Is there any judge who would give a high score to a cheating woman? (Naudzubillah min dzalik...)
Show Allah that you do not "waver" just because your husband cheated. Show Allah that you are His patient servant who remains obedient to Him. If you can do these two things, Allah will boast about you before His angels.
The best validation is the validation from Allah. So why seek validation from a man who is not your mahram?
And the best One to repay the pain of betrayal is Allah. So why would you respond to infidelity with infidelity?
But… there is something even better than asking Allah to punish his betrayal.
That is: Asking Allah to reward you instead. To grant you a replacement far better than him : Someone truly good , along with success.
Isn’t receiving someone better than the one who betrayed you, and attaining success, the best kind of revenge?
Originally written
By : Tia Maryam
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